Traditional Malay Archipelago Wedding Costume. Note my Indian Heritage Henna painted hnads.

Family Friday

Wow! Time flies when you’re having fun they say, well ‘they’ are too right!

I felt like I’ve just professed my love for my perfect other half just recently and today we’re crossing another milestone, another year of married life. Hmm…it’s so hard to believe too that these ‘young at heart’ couple are parents to a 10-year and a 4-year-old girls and a 9-month-old baby boy. We own our own home, live in a good street, have 2 cars and 3 cats, how domestic.

For those that read my story last year, you’ll know how much we had to fight the outside world to get to this level of love and commitment. People and circumstances have tried to pull us apart but what can’t break us can only make us stronger.

Today I’d like to announce to the world, I am in love!! Still in love!!

Today is Anders and my 10th wedding anniversary. Wow!! We’ve been married 10 yrs and together a bit more than that. In this modern age of quick marriages and even quicker divorces, I feel that what we have must be really awesome to withstand the test of time.

When we first met, we were with other partners. But deep inside, we both felt a connection. This connection was so deep that every time we bumped into each other, it just felt stronger and stronger. As the heavens would have it, we got together in the end after ending our own relationships with the exes.

We have been through 3 marriages i.e weddings in the space of a year. One, in the eyes of God, two, in the eyes of society and family and three, in the eyes of the law. Oh boy, was it hard to get there. I had to fight so hard to be with the man I love. One of them was with my own estranged dad who decided he wanted to sabotage our union. Then Anders’s visa was cancelled just before our Singapore wedding. That was just the tip of the iceberg.

Many people doubt that our union will last. Tongues were wagging even during our S’pore wedding amongst the invited guests. People were saying things like, “Ar’nie is the disco queen, loves partying, she’ll never make him happy”.. “Oh he’s white, he’s bound to leave her when the going gets rough, back to his homeland”.. Oh there’s just a few of the hurtful things people say when they are prejudiced. Even till today, I know a few family members still doubting our union. My late grannie said the best way to tell them off is to show otherwise. “Show them your love is pure and for eternity. I know you will stay together long after I’ve blown my last breath”.

Well, she has blown her last breath only months after Adeena was born almost 10 yrs ago and glory to God and the Universe, our love has grown only stronger. The things that we have had to go through as a couple, would only have made the weaker ones divorced a loooong time ago. From almost financial ruins, to global transitions to job changes to more financial difficulty to building and renovating our own houses and the birth of 2 children and more life experiences….

2010 is the beginning of a new era. We have grown older and wiser and thankfully we have grown TOGETHER. We have decided on new directions in our lives and a third child is being sent our way. In the words of many psychics whom I’ve had the pleasure of meeting, we were matched made in Heaven. And may Heaven too keep us going for another 10 or more years.

But I pray that after this 10 somewhat hard years, it will be more smooth sailing so that our laughters are not tinged with a little sadness. I still am so IN love with the man I met, the one who has never stopped making me laugh, the one I always enjoy waking up next too, the one I can never be angry for too long, the one I think is an undiscovered genius, the one I love making love to, the one who makes me want to be the best. HE IS THE BEST!! Father, husband, lover and son.

For those of you walking our path, if you know that your love is pure and true, never be afraid to walk on your own, just the two of you. For all you know, there are 2 angels walking alongside you and guiding you to your own happiness.

Anders Krogh, I will marry you all over again if I have to!

-note written in my Facebook profile 15/04/2010

Here’s a few pictures of our weddings (the two in Singapore and Denmark).

Picture from Singapore Wedding, another traditional Malay Archipelago style made in Indian saree material.

I did my own hair, make up and styling for this perfect wedding day in June in Denmark.

I feel truly beautiful and loved this day and every day...

With the baby finally here and another international move in the next few months for this nomadic family and a stressful time with yours truly in the hospital, you bet we are ready for another ring around the sun!

For those of you looking for a new direction on your love and relationships front, “The Goddess in Love” Coaching sessions will start again after summer 2011. Whether in person or through Skype, one to one sessions are the perfect way for you to learn my secrets of being passionately in love after more than 11 years with the same man. Contact me via goddesscoaching@gmail.com